Discovering Glimmers: The Path to a Happier, Calmer, More Connected Life
In our fast-paced lives, it's common to get caught up in analyzing and dwelling on the challenges and negatives we encounter. Our busy minds tend to focus on negativity, which affects our mental well-being and causes our nervous systems to remain on edge. However, there's a simple yet powerful antidote to this cycle: the concept of "glimmers."
The term "glimmer" was introduced by social worker Deb Dana in her insightful book, "The Polyvagal Theory In Therapy: Engaging The Rhythm Of Regulation." Glimmers, in opposition to triggers, are those tiny moments that bring us happiness, hope, a sense of safety, and connection. What's truly remarkable is that we have the ability to actively seek out and embrace these moments.
Because glimmers can be as fleeting as a smile from a stranger, the sun breaking through the clouds, or the soothing aroma of freshly brewed coffee. They are the poetry of everyday existence.
But first, let’s dig deeper into why the glimmers are important.
Enhancing Awareness: Glimmers encourage us to be more present and attentive to our surroundings. They remind us that life is not just a rush from one task to another but a collection of precious moments.
Boosting Positivity: Recognizing and appreciating these small delights can uplift our mood, reduce stress, and foster a positive outlook on life.
Strengthening Connection: Glimmers often involve human connection—moments of kindness, shared laughter, or an understanding glance. They nurture our social bonds and enrich our relationships.
Mindfulness Practice: Glimmers align with mindfulness principles, encouraging us to be fully engaged in the present moment. They invite us to savor life as it unfolds.
Now, that we know what the benefits are, how can we find more glimmers in our lives?
Practice Gratitude: Regularly reflect on the small joys in your life, even if it's just for a few moments each day.
Mindfulness: Develop mindfulness by paying attention to your senses. Notice the details in your environment, tastes, textures, and sounds.
Share the Joy: Spread positivity by acknowledging and appreciating the glimmers you encounter. Your enthusiasm can be contagious.
Savor the Moments: Slow down and immerse yourself fully in the experiences that bring you joy. Let them linger in your memory.
Capture the Glimmers: Consider keeping a journal or using a smartphone app to record the glimmers you encounter. This can help you build a collection of moments to revisit.
And here are some of my favorite glimmers, maybe they will be an inspiration to you :)
Nature's Beauty: The soft rustling of leaves in the wind, a vibrant sunset painting the sky, or the rain feeling cold on my skin.
Acts of Kindness: A stranger holding the door open for you, someone offering their seat on a crowded bus, or a friend sending an unexpected message of support.
Family Moments: The laughter of a child, a shared meal with loved ones, or a warm hug after a long day.
Creativity: The feeling of inspiration striking, the satisfaction of completing a creative project, or the joy of discovering a new hobby.
Self-Care: The first sip of your favorite tea, the warmth of a cozy blanket, or the relaxation of a bubble bath.
Everyday Wonders: Finding a hidden gem in a bookstore, stumbling upon a captivating street performance, or the aroma of a bakery on your morning walk.
Life's beauty lies not just in the grand events but in the intricate mosaic of everyday experiences. Glimmers are the radiant threads that enrich the tapestry of our lives. Embrace them, cherish them, and watch as they illuminate your existence with boundless beauty and meaning. 🌟✨
Definitions:
Glimmers are internal or external cues that help us feel joy, safety or connection.
Triggers are danger cues that make us feel threatened, leading us to fight, run away, freeze or fawn.
